So my husband and I get along in most big areas of our marriage like how to raise our kids, God/Jesus, where to go to church, making it to most family gatherings, and many other big things in our lives.
I think the thing that we get hung up is the man / woman thing. He thinks and communicates like a man, and me like a woman. I think that the longer you are married, the more you realize how differently each of us process the world. For example, if I say "I need a break, I am spent", he might think "What does she need a break from, does she need one right now? How can I help her with the break that she needs?" Until I ask him specifically what he is thinking when I say that, he sometimes just doesn't know what to say and I can't blame him. Sometimes it would be nice for him to read my mind, but God wouldn't have it that way .That is why he wants us to learn to communicate love and understanding to one another. He makes us work at it, but always helps us!
We just started praying together regularly (apart from saying Grace at dinner) and that has just opened a line of communication we have not experienced in a while. We saw the need to be close to each other in that way but just found it hard. That is such an intimate form of communication and even though we are both Christian, we found it hard. God is bringing us closer than ever before and I am thankful for that!
Marriage really does take 3 !
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Monday, November 2, 2009
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Yahtzee Date Nights
What God Says:Song of Solomon 6:3 " I am my lover's and my lover is mine; he browses among the lilies."
It is early in the week and you have been dancing through life with the kids and all the mommyhood things we know go on. Cooking(not always your Betty Crocker top notch sort-of meal), cleaning( toys and picking at the grout from crayon marks or smashed cupcake pieces), and looking forward to your husband's day off of work so you guys can get that long awaited time alone, when suddenly you realize that the people that you trust most with your little ones are not available any time soon. What do you do?
For Norah, our 2 year old,we were able to find someone to watch her almost once a week. Family was more that willing to babysit. She was the first grand baby and niece and I provided pumped milk in a bottle and off we were. She didn't know any better, she slept as long as someone was holding her. Then came Lincoln.We love our parents, brothers, sisters and friends, but when you have 2 children in diapers it is a lot more difficult to find people that are willing to watch them so you can have a date night or are available when you need them,especially where we live in the city that never sleeps aka....Las Vegas. Of course we love our children, but our marriage was here before our children and we need to nourish this marriage no matter what!!!
Having said that...what are we to do? Now, Jake and I try to have 1 date night a month or every other month out. We get dressed up and have a nice dinner or go see a movie or go bowling and we always try and end the night with ice cream. That is just our thing. After those nights, no matter what is going on in life, we feel reconnected and have that special "in love" feeling that we had before children and real responsibilities.
In the meantime, because date nights once every month or 2 is NOT enough to sustain a marriage, we have Yahtzee tournaments on the couch. At dinner we might throw out a comment " Yahtzee tonight, you're gonna lose" with a smirk. So when the kids are sleeping we go downstairs and shake the dice in our hands because they are too loud in the cup and play as many games until we are pooped and ready for bed. This is fun for us and keeps the playful nature in our marriage until we can get the romantic date night out.
Mommyhood Moral of the Story by Tami: Redefine date nights as necessary but GET THEM IN! Your marriage is important and was there before the kids. It needs water and love to grow, so find out what mists your plant in between real watering.
It is early in the week and you have been dancing through life with the kids and all the mommyhood things we know go on. Cooking(not always your Betty Crocker top notch sort-of meal), cleaning( toys and picking at the grout from crayon marks or smashed cupcake pieces), and looking forward to your husband's day off of work so you guys can get that long awaited time alone, when suddenly you realize that the people that you trust most with your little ones are not available any time soon. What do you do?
For Norah, our 2 year old,we were able to find someone to watch her almost once a week. Family was more that willing to babysit. She was the first grand baby and niece and I provided pumped milk in a bottle and off we were. She didn't know any better, she slept as long as someone was holding her. Then came Lincoln.We love our parents, brothers, sisters and friends, but when you have 2 children in diapers it is a lot more difficult to find people that are willing to watch them so you can have a date night or are available when you need them,especially where we live in the city that never sleeps aka....Las Vegas. Of course we love our children, but our marriage was here before our children and we need to nourish this marriage no matter what!!!
Having said that...what are we to do? Now, Jake and I try to have 1 date night a month or every other month out. We get dressed up and have a nice dinner or go see a movie or go bowling and we always try and end the night with ice cream. That is just our thing. After those nights, no matter what is going on in life, we feel reconnected and have that special "in love" feeling that we had before children and real responsibilities.
In the meantime, because date nights once every month or 2 is NOT enough to sustain a marriage, we have Yahtzee tournaments on the couch. At dinner we might throw out a comment " Yahtzee tonight, you're gonna lose" with a smirk. So when the kids are sleeping we go downstairs and shake the dice in our hands because they are too loud in the cup and play as many games until we are pooped and ready for bed. This is fun for us and keeps the playful nature in our marriage until we can get the romantic date night out.
Mommyhood Moral of the Story by Tami: Redefine date nights as necessary but GET THEM IN! Your marriage is important and was there before the kids. It needs water and love to grow, so find out what mists your plant in between real watering.
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